I often feel that I have gone backwards with my family!
I remember my childhood being happy and I was supported in my goals/dreams. My Dad travelled all over the place to support me when I played in a brass band and then when I played football and we even became qualified referees together.
Then I grew up and moved away and something changed.
I wouldn’t say that I am not supported but I am number 4 out of 4 in the sibling rankings and I think that it is because I am the most independent. I feel like my parents love is based on how much I need them.
They raised me to be strong and independent but don’t actually like that I am like that?!?
A ramble or a moment processing? Both are always welcome 💜 i totally get what you mean! I, too, am very independent.
I feel like I’ve gone backwards in that my family was the most important thing to me. I put it in my introductions in high school and such as “family oriented.” Then I started realizing the dysfunction, and I’ve backed away to the point where Easter coming up next Sunday makes me want to vomit lol. I don’t want to go and smile and nod and pretend. I’ve gone very backwards with my patience and tolerance for the façade of “nice white family.” It feels a lot like abandoning them, but it also feels a lot like emotional and mental protection. It’s a fine line to walk.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts 💜💜💜
Yup! It was actually a moment processing. Thank you for that opportunity/prompt?!? 💜💜💜
My family are a ‘nice white family’ too and we have to not talk about certain subjects because we will fall out and it is so hard! I have to separate my actual feelings from that weird parental bond
Relatable! My partner is always like “your family is so boring! And every time someone brings up anything interesting, everyone cowers in fear.”
I no longer cower, but I hate being questioned because I’m a grandchild. I’m a full adult with full life experiences at 35, and I’m the only grandchild with 2 degrees and multiple professional certificates. I’m not stupid… despite the self deprecating words that leave my mouth. So I disengage because I know my knowledge will just be questioned, and I don’t have the kindness in my heart to not name call my grandparents 🤣🤣🤣
I often feel that I have gone backwards with my family!
I remember my childhood being happy and I was supported in my goals/dreams. My Dad travelled all over the place to support me when I played in a brass band and then when I played football and we even became qualified referees together.
Then I grew up and moved away and something changed.
I wouldn’t say that I am not supported but I am number 4 out of 4 in the sibling rankings and I think that it is because I am the most independent. I feel like my parents love is based on how much I need them.
They raised me to be strong and independent but don’t actually like that I am like that?!?
Sorry bit of a ramble there 😂
A ramble or a moment processing? Both are always welcome 💜 i totally get what you mean! I, too, am very independent.
I feel like I’ve gone backwards in that my family was the most important thing to me. I put it in my introductions in high school and such as “family oriented.” Then I started realizing the dysfunction, and I’ve backed away to the point where Easter coming up next Sunday makes me want to vomit lol. I don’t want to go and smile and nod and pretend. I’ve gone very backwards with my patience and tolerance for the façade of “nice white family.” It feels a lot like abandoning them, but it also feels a lot like emotional and mental protection. It’s a fine line to walk.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts 💜💜💜
Yup! It was actually a moment processing. Thank you for that opportunity/prompt?!? 💜💜💜
My family are a ‘nice white family’ too and we have to not talk about certain subjects because we will fall out and it is so hard! I have to separate my actual feelings from that weird parental bond
Relatable! My partner is always like “your family is so boring! And every time someone brings up anything interesting, everyone cowers in fear.”
I no longer cower, but I hate being questioned because I’m a grandchild. I’m a full adult with full life experiences at 35, and I’m the only grandchild with 2 degrees and multiple professional certificates. I’m not stupid… despite the self deprecating words that leave my mouth. So I disengage because I know my knowledge will just be questioned, and I don’t have the kindness in my heart to not name call my grandparents 🤣🤣🤣