Ten of Cups As Found Family

Tarot Chat

Happy Monday!

I had the best birthday this year. Like, truly. I have had some really good birthdays, but this one, I think takes the cake. It started out rocky. Those who are close to me had to listen to me bitch for a couple days as I processed through the neglect of my family as they “celebrated” (see: ignored) me. Then, this amazing and wonderful thing happened: All of my found family fixed the hurt, the betrayal, the disappointment. They showed up with love and compassion and genuine joy, leaving me sitting in a puddle of warm fuzzy feelings that feel hard to process. Thank you to my friends, my loves, my found family for wrapping around me so ardently.

When reflecting on this experience, the Ten of Cups popped into my head. It’s not just the family card; it’s the card of FOUND family.

Back in 2017 there was a kickstarter for The Cute Cat Tarot. An option was to memorialize your cat in the deck, and you could choose from the available cards. I put my cat Daisy in there as one of the perks and got this sweet print to hang up. I chose the 10 of Cups because all she wanted was a family. She wanted to be at home and loved and doted on. She did not want to be in that cage at The Humane Society. I have always associated this card with family, but the more I think about it, the more that those cups and rainbow represent love outside of blood relations.

This card is about building a future of emotional satisfaction with others. It is often seen as the marriage card and what is marriage if not found family? I am very anti-marriage (y’all do you, but I’m good. I will just die without health insurance), but I am very good at long term relationships and building a life/home with others.

My 36th birthday had me literally seeing rainbows (that first picture was taken from the hotel room while I was on FT with Ray), and who can think of anything except the 10 of Cups when they see rainbows?

My point being, if the 10 of Cups gets you down because love and family are hard, remember that family is what you make of it. The 10 of Pentacles is about legacy and bloodlines and inherited wealth if you’re lucky, trauma if you’re the rest of us. I think it’s the main difference in the two cards. One is familial lineage, lessons, land (or not!) passed down, the other is finding who makes you and your world light up.

I am incredibly grateful for the people in my life, and that includes YOU!! Thank you, as always, for being here.

Let me know your interpretation of these two cards. Do you feel drawn to them? Do you feel apathetic or even averse to either of them?

******QUICK NOTE: I am still open for New Moon Readings for yesterday’s New Moon in Sagittarius if you’re interested********

Wishing you well this week! May your life offer what you need in this moment.

With love,

Aventurine ✨